You walk into the room wondering if they like you, I walk into the room wondering if I like them.
The quote above is one of my go to quotes that separates winners and losers. If you wonder why you are not getting things in your life to go right, then go left. Find someone who can guide you and change your life with the smallest shifts in mindset. It starts with a thought, and like a fountain it starts off as a drop of water then 2 drops of water which leads to a fountain of water.
Pessimists are quite literally, everywhere.
Oh, and it doesn’t stop there. It gets worse.
The Challenge
They then want to befriend you because they see you are a positive, outgoing, and smart individual going places in life. You may notice the trend in people who and why certain people are attracted to one another. It usually starts with the “opposites attract” bullsh*t.
Opposites attract, sure. It just doesn’t last, or if it does last it turns into a toxic environment or relationship.
So how do you stay resilient in a world of pessimists? It’s simple. Once you accept the fact that you can not and will not be able to change those around you, life suddenly becomes easier. I’ve learned that letting go gives you the most amount of power, and you have to be careful with whom you decide to let go. The one person you ought to be careful with talking back to is yourself. Negative self talk is real, and can tear you down if you are not aware of your subconscious thoughts. This is why when I look in the mirror I make sure I smile and verbally tell myself, “today is going to be a grrrrreat day!” then I flex.
The Chipmunk
I have found that resiliency comes with teaching you through life’s battles that scars and wounds are a good thing. The unfortunate truth though is that if a man has scars and wounds from battle he magically becomes more attractive…
If a woman, though, has scars and wounds from battle she somehow is less valuable to the opposite sex. Unless a *real men* knows a strong woman when he sees one then that’s a different conversation. The reality of it all is there aren’t a lot of *real men* in our society. The contrary is a lot of men prefer the softer woman, which is understandable. Women are stronger though, but I digress.
Anywho I like to use the analogy of the chipmunk. Pop up when you see a opportunity you feel you can capitalize from, and go from there. You get out see what’s happening and do what is required of you then go back into your hole when you need to recharge or hide. Get back out there and try again. Fate loves the fearless. Nothing will come to you on a silver platter, and gracefully welcome you into the world. You have to go out and get it for yourself, and create opportunities for yourself.
Newsflash
No one cares about your feelings, sorry.
I hear some people proudly say things such as, “I don’t care what others think of me” blah blah blah.
I would challenge this way of thinking. I think it’s good to be aware of how others perceive you and your choices after all perception is reality. What you do today may be OK for the time being, but it does not mean that how you feel about it will remain constant going into the future. People evolve, and how you are perceived from your boss or the outside world, for example, should be taken into consideration if you want to get ahead in life.
If you truly “don’t care,” then watch what happens when you stop paying your mortgage payment and end up in eviction. Do you still not care what others think of you? Only after getting beat up will someone ask others for help on how to change, and thus be receptive to how they are perceived.
Perception is reality.
People Can’t Drive You Crazy if You Don’t Give Them the Keys
It’s a book, get it.
People can only make you feel a certain way if you give them the power to do so. Without the power they can not control you. I like to think of it as a literal key in my mind, and if I see someone trying to challenge, intimidate, or gain some sort of control I simply use this figurative key and glue it to my forehead. They can try so hard to get this key, but it won’t happen because the glue aka my sense of being is too strong to fathom.
Peoples’ words can only hurt if you let it hurt you - it’s all in your hands.
If you feel someone continues to rob you of your peace I have learned that this comes from a place, on their part, of insecurity. Use others’ words of hate onto you as fuel to be even better.
Confident people see the good, or at least choose to see the good in others.
If you get knocked down by someone or a event, what’re you going to do? Are you going to stay there and let the rain pour over you??
No.
You get up, get your umbrella, dry yourself off, and try again because the storm will always be there. Don’t try to fight the storm just try to work with it. Once you learn how to work with it you will have gained a tremendous skill that not many people have.
It’s true that you are a product of your environment so if you are in a situation where things suck right now then it’s time to level up and make different decisions to get out of the bad environment and move to a better one.
Resiliency is a habit, and it starts with the small things such as
Do what you say you’re going to do when you do it
Stick to your word
Work hard and smart
Tie your shoes
Make your bed in the morning
The little things in life is what makes the big things. You don’t see a high status person who looks and runs their life like a dump, do you? Exactly.
You only fail when you give up so keep going.
Be well.
Yelena
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